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christine hodges's avatar

what should I do if my daughter has really scarred my heart and after all our years, still uses me or asks for things without really having a relationship...at this point I don't even care anymore...I was so hurt by her over the years..not being considerate or respectful towards me...so subtle and she doesn't even see it but it's because I am the hurt one ...she may have her hurts and pains but I need to know how to live on ...I can repent and get the bitterness out...but do I still let her be a tool towards me? She doesn't think she is but I'm the one who knows the "used" feeling...I'm not stupid..she manipulates...anyway....I just don't know how to have a relationship with her or even if I want one...too little too late is what I feel...Lord have mercy!

Notes from the Middle of It's avatar

This is SOOOOO crucial. Thank you for putting this out here!!!!! My garden tools are a MESS from ripping up the dirt these last several months and I hope everyone else's are.

Blessing's avatar
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Tough read. But the Lord has delivered me. Thank you Pastor

Christopher Cook's avatar

Praying for you. Thank you for reading!

Lana Walker's avatar

Oh, and I am reading your book, “Healing What You Can’t Erase”, so helpful.

Christopher Cook's avatar

I'm so glad it is.

Lana Walker's avatar

I have lived with a narcissistic personality for years and years. It is not a one time event that leaves me struggling with this trap of bitterness. Certainly the ugliest traits have disappeared because of old age but the self importance and self promotion hasn’t. I do listen to Dr Lee Warren and I have his book, so work hard at avoiding negative thoughts. I also spend a lot of time in scripture, prayer and focus on serving others. Just wish the path was easier.

Christopher Cook's avatar

I'm so sorry, Lana. I am praying for you. And stick with Dr. Warren's book. It's a game-changer. I might also recommend that you get a copy of my book, too. I think it'd serve you right where you're at. Here's an Amazon link: https://amzn.to/4utIB4b

Susan Beth's avatar

Thank you for this! I’ll be rereading this a few times. Very timely!

Christopher Cook's avatar

I’m so thankful.

Daniela Fleming's avatar

Last night I’m at a women’s ministry event and the topic is bitterness. I get home and lament (I loved what you said about this, as this is something I’ve been doing quite a bit) and pray for healing in areas that have become like redwoods within me. Now it’s morning and I see your writing on bitterness, God’s timing never ceases to amaze me. I love how you frame it disguised as wisdom, it is very cunning and insidious. You really helped confirm what I already knew as I’m in a waiting season…God is continuing to reveal areas of my heart that need healing and prayer as I know He’s preparing me for the my next chapter, but I’m not ready yet. As a newish believer I’m learning so much. Thank you for your teachings! 🙏🏻

Christopher Cook's avatar

Thank you for sharing this! I am praying for you!

Steve Suter's avatar

That's one to chew on for awhile! Thank you!

Christopher Cook's avatar

Thanks, Steve. I agree. I'm out in the weeds with the Lord on this one! Cheering for you.

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Praying for you.